It’s sexy time! Time to answer a few TMI Tuesday sex questions.
1. In the bedroom, what makes you insecure?
In the bedroom, my goal is to pleasure a woman. So my biggest fear is her leaving the room frustrated, ungratified, and short-changed. Even if she ends up not achieving orgasm, I want my companion to at least to smile and have fun. And this lead me to . . .
2. In the bedroom, what makes you a champion?
I make an effort to pleasure my companion. I spend time with soft kisses, foreplay, dirty talk, cunnilingus — all the tricks necessary to elevate her mood to get her closer to orgasm. I may not be always successful but at least she should leave the room with a smile on her face.
And this is true even with sex workers. I make an effort to get her relaxed and comfortable with me. I may not perform more intimate acts — deep kissing and cunnilingus are often not on the table — but I open up conversations with her and I take things slow and gentle until I get some signal to ramp up the passion.
3. When it comes to sexy time, I earn a gold medal _____ .
. . . in the foreplay category. Even as early as the date, the drive, and the walk to the bedroom do I deploy all my seduction and foreplay techniques.
4. At the sexolympics, in which sport will you compete?
a. Artistic, synchronized water sex in the pool
b. Freestyle naked wrestling
c. Artistic naked gymnastics
I would compete in freestyle. I am no expert in pretzel-like positions, and sex for me is more a wild and wanton romp than a slow intimate dance. I go with the flow in the bedroom, reading my partner’s body language and facial expressions and reacting to it.
5. Your significant other’s ex is coming to town and he/she wants to go out to dinner with them alone. How do you react?
a. It’s okay, no problem.
b. Not thrilled, but go ahead.
c. Not just no… HELL no!
I am definitely not thrilled but I am not the type who will prevent her from doing what she wants. But there are consequences to whatever she decides to do. Honestly, there is a greater chance of a breakup if she does go.
Bonus: What kind of fidelity (being faithful) is more important to you?
c. Neither is important.
d. Both are equally important
While both are equally important, I give more weight to mental/emotional fidelity. I have had partners who had crushes on — even sexual fantasies with — more attractive and sexier celebrities. I don’t mind that. Fidelity begins with the inner subconscious, something deeper than physical. I have actually noticed this with sex workers who can detach themselves from the emotions that come with sex and treat their service as if they are actors in a play.